Product Description

Sexual signals help you find, meet, talk with and date Mister or Ms Right using secrets of nonverbal communication. Forty photographs clearly show what to watch out for. The essence of courtship and dating conversations is to communicate, with and without words, "This is who I am. I hope you like me. Show and tell me about yourself so I can discover if I like you."

Women, learn how you can easily get noticed, then interest and attract the right type of man, a man you can trust. The way he stands or sits, touches or does not touch himself lets you know if he is telling the truth. The brutally honest chapter is titled Courtship Tactics For Women. Men, learn how you can tell from across the room if she's interested in you just by her posture and gestures. During conversation, find out if she's leading you on or if she's sincerely interested in you. The brutally honest chapter is titled Courtship Tactics For Men.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #99035 in Books
• Published on: 1997-01
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 160 pages

Review
Steele has written the benchmark book of courtship body language. There's nothing that even comes close. Money well spent. -- Tom French, Orange County Register, February 3, 1997

From the Publisher
1032 copies were sold before publication, sight unseen, to buyers of Steele's other books. Absolutely guaranteed money back no questions asked. Steele has been on Montel Williams, Jenny Jones, Jane Whitney and Danny Bonaduce TV shows and done over 200 radio interviews.

From the Author
Body Language Anecdote-Televised Liars. As the Watergate hearings were taking place in 1973, I was interning as a Marriage, Family and Child Counselor with Nathaniel Branden. Part of my responsibilities included learning, then teaching body language to fellow interns.

In the afternoons we'd watch the daily televised testimony with sorrow and dread as our country's President was slowly, but steadily revealed as a crook. I kept telling everyone John Mitchell, the Attorney General, was lying on the witness stand. Nobody believed, rather, wanted to believe, that America's chief law enforcement officer would lie to the United States Senate. But, I could feel it, as corny as it sounds, deep in my bones.

One day, someone turned the volume down on the television to answer the phone. We kept watching the silent screen. With the sound off, we were all able to notice that time after time, Mitchell would touch his mouth or eye when responding, or close his eyes while, or just as he finished, speaking. After he did that about three times, the entire group, especially me, screamed, "He's lying! He's lying!"

Later, to help recently divorced clients and clients who had inadequate social skills, Branden had me conduct Assertiveness Training For Singles. Part of the program was the Body Language Of Courtship. The aim was to teach women how to spot manipulative, lying men and to help men learn which women were attracted to them.

Customer Reviews

Best book I've read on body language
Why is it that most people trash body language books, yet fail to realize there are many truths? My impression is that we don't want to admit that tens of thousands of years of biology are still controlling part of our reactions so we try to distance ourselves from the body language spectacle.

Anyway, here's some points you will pick up from this book:

(1) Learn to read the body langauge of a woman before approaching her. Don't go where you aren't appreciated, in other words; (2) Several subtle, and not so subtle, clues as to whether she's interested in you . .. from eyes to feet to preening; (3) understanding anthropology; why men and women pick certain traits; (4) signs that she isn't interested; (5) looking for clusters; (6) becoming more aware; and (7) how to make yourself more attractive through body language.

Some Good Advice, Some Cheesy Advice, But A Good Refresher On Non-verbal Communication
The Pros:
- Good layout
Sections are appropriately titled and information in each section is relevant (for the most part). Headlines make specific points easy to find, and most ideas are then clearly explained under sub-headings.
- (On that note) Clear explanations of ideas. I would imagine that even a high schooler shouldn't have too much trouble understanding the ideas and the language used.
- A good quick reference for people who already have an understanding of non-verbal communication and gives a little more depth to some of the reasoning behind some actions.
- Pictures demonstrate many ideas (also a con - see below)

The Cons:
- Anyone with even a moderate understanding of non-verbal communication or anyone who has read a book on communication in relationships will find 99% of the information useless.
- When taken for just the parts covered in the appendix, the book is a great reference, however his actual content is awful. He goes on and on throughout the book about "Rapo" (Rape-O) women and "Cavalier" men, which has very little point.
- More time is spent explaining that some men are "dogs" and some women are "teases" than is spent on actual "body language secrets".
- A large part of the book does not even pretend to discuss body language. Chapters include,"Meeting Ms Or Mr Right", "Courtship Tactics For Women", and "On Not Being Too Nice". Interestingly enough, because of the lack of compelling content on the actual body language side, I personally found these areas the most useful.
- His analysis like the idea that a man is being insincere if his feet are not firmly planted when talking to you does not take into account problems like how a short or tall man might not be able to plant their feet because the size of a chair may be wrong (for example).
- The pictures are all of the author and his wife. Many pictures do not very clearly demonstrate the point the author is trying to make.

My Analysis:
Spend a little more money and get a good textbook on non-verbal communication.

Most of This Book NOT About Body Language, Save Your Moneÿ
Much of this book is very similiar to Steele's How to Date Young Women series. There are better and lower priced body language books out there without Steele's dating observations of varying quality included as filler. If this book were strictly about body language it would only be about 50 pages in length. Like his other works, which are self-published as is this, editing and writing are crude. Steele has some dating and relationship observations that are continuously recycled in his writings. And remember, he's twice divorced.